I had a most interesting conversation with my best friend’s father yesterday which got me thinking about trust [issues] and life in general and the different people we meet every day… And it reminded me of a novel I saw in a book store once about a place where people turned a certain colour depending on their latest indiscretion. What if you could tell (with all certainty) who a person was within 5 or so minutes of meeting them? What if we all wore our stories on our foreheads?
The reason people don’t trust other people is because they fear that everyone else is like that version of them they expertly hide; those demons they constantly fight. When you flirt with your friend’s spouse behind their back, you won’t trust someone else around yours. If the first thing you do with someone’s phone is poke through their private stuff, you’ll be paranoid about giving yours to someone else. If you talk ill about your friends in their absence, you’ll fear they are doing the same in yours. If you can’t keep a secret, you’ll assume everyone else can’t either. I could go on and on. At the end of the day, you’ll have an insurmountable amount of paranoia which might eventually make you crazy. Did you do something behind your friend’s back today? Congratulations! You’ll worry about all your friends doing something behind your back tomorrow. Did you cheat on your spouse today? Congratulations! You’ll now live in fear of being cheated on! The moral of the story: always be the best version of yourself -even when no one’s watching. That way, your inner demons won’t have anything on you. And most importantly, the one person who’s constantly watching us; He who sees all the things we hide from everyone else will be pleased!
In the words of the greatest man who ever lived, “Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them…” -Matthew 7:13